Tuesday, February 12, 2013

101 in 1001 Days, Part 2

I did my first 101 in 1001 days on April 19, 2010, so I'm technically a little bit behind in posting this. I didn't complete my first list, so some things I'm going to be transferring to this list, along with lots of new ones. I'm definitely going to need some help with some of these!  The "deadline" for this list is November 10, 2015. (italicized and highlighted purple means completed).

Because I have never...
1. Watch the show Breaking Bad from start to finish (finished December 2013)
2. Take a yoga class
3. Host a dinner party
4. Pay for a person's food behind me in a drive thru
5. Open a cookbook and make whatever is on that page
6. Buy flowers for myself
7. Go snow skiing
8. Ride in a hot air balloon
9. Sing karaoke
10. Go to a drive in movie
11. Go golfing
12. Go to a haunted house
13. Go deep sea fishing
14. See a ballet
15. Go on a cruise
16. Go ice fishing
17. Go to IKEA

Because I love to travel...
18. Visit 5 new states (Delaware, October 2013; Oregon, November 2013)
19. Visit New York City
20. See Boston in the fall
21. Visit another country
22. See Niagara Falls
23. Stay at a bed and breakfast
24. Drive a portion of Route 66
25. Hike a part of the Appalachian Trail
26. Go on a random road trip - with no destination in mind
27. Go to 3 new zoos (Memphis, July 2013)
28. Go to Napa
29. See the Hollywood sign (May, 2013)
30. Go to the Mall of America (December, 2013)
31. Do the Bourbon Trail

Because I like to make my life insurance agent nervous...
32. Go scuba diving
33. Go rock climbing
34. Go hang gliding
35. Go 4-wheeling
36. Go ziplining (April, 2013)

Because I absolutely love Nashville...
37. See a show at Bluebird Cafe (October, 2013)
38. Take a ride on the General Jackson
39. Spend the day touring downtown Nashville
40. Give money to a street musician
41. Go to Bluebird on the Mountain
42. Do the NashTrash Tour
43. Take the Corsair Artisan Tour
44. Tour Yazoo Brewery (August 2013)
45. Eat at 10 Nashville based restaurants I haven't eaten at yet (Etch, Feb. 2013; Hattie B's, Feb. 2013; Five Points Pizza, March 2013; Wild Iris, March 2013; Sal's Pizza, March 2013; Eastland Cafe, March 2013; Rolf & Daughters, April 2013; Alegria, April 2013; Merridee's Breadbasket, May 2013; Bombay Bistro, June 2013)
46. Take the Ryman Auditorium tour
47. Spend the night at the Opryland Hotel
48. Go to the Belle Meade Plantation
49. Grab a drink at Patterson House
50. Go to the hot chicken festival

Because family is important...
51. Take the kids on solo weekend trips (Kassidy - Chicago, August 2013)
52. Do time capsules to open in 1, 5, and 10 years
53. Take a family vacation
54. Have a silly string fight
55. Write them letters to open later in life

Because I'm not giving up quite yet...
56. Kiss in the rain
57. Fall in love with my best friend (2013)
58. See the sunrise and sunset together in the same day
59. Have a New Year's Eve kiss

Because it's good to always keep learning...
60. Try 25 new foods (roasted red pepper, goat brulee, fried catfish, spinach & chickpea patty; April 2013; chata, bone marrow, tofu, tiramisu, June 2013; courgettes, lady peas, July 2013; cream cheese, crabcakes, August 2013; poutine, October 2013; shrimp, November 2013)
61. Watch 3 documentaries (Stuck, December 2013)
62. Learn how to make an omelet
63. Learn how to play tennis
64. Watch 3 foreign films
65. Make vodka gummy bears
66. Learn how to rollerblade
67. Read 25 new books (Love Does, tc; Crazy Love, tc; Jantsen's Gift, tbc; Divergent, kh; Allegiant, kh; The Fault in Our Stars, ae)

Because it's time to do these things...
68. Write a letter to myself to open in 10 years
69. Put flowers on Janet & Darian's graves
70. Face one of my biggest fears - and hold a frog
71. Face another of my biggest fears - and learn how to swim
72. Discover some podcasts - and actually listen to them

Because Kelley calls me a jock...
73. See a Preds game from Cellblock 303 (April 2013, Preds vs. Red Wings)
74. See a Major League Baseball game
75. See an NBA game
76. Go to an NHL game in another city (November 2013, Preds vs. Avs @ Pepsi Center)
77. See a professional soccer game (February 2012, US women vs. Scotland)

Because it's good to get in shape...
78. Do 3 more half marathons
79. Do another running relay

Because I love music...
80. See a concert at Cumberland Caverns
81. See Mumford & Sons in Concert (September, 2013)
82. Go to concerts in 3 different amphitheaters (Klipsch, Maroon 5 & Kelly Clarkson, August 2013; Mumford & Sons, Oak Mountain, September 2013;)
83. See Celine Dion in concert
84. Go to an opera
85. See a Broadway show
86. Go to 10 concerts (Needtobreathe, Cirque Musica, April 2013; Ben Rector, April 2013; Billy Currington, June 2013; Kelly Clarkson/Maroon 5, Taylor Swift, Sara Bareilles, August 2013; Ben Rector, Needtobreathe, Green River Ordinance, Lumineers, October 2013)

Because it just sounds like fun...
87. See another Cirque du Soleil performance (Quidam, June 2013; KA, September 2013)
88. Swim with dolphins
89. Go tent camping
90. Create a black and white wall
91. Hike to a waterfall (June 2013)
92. Ride a camel (July 2013)
93. Take photos in a photo booth
94. Ride 5 new roller coasters
95. Leave a letter in a library book
96. Take photos in a photobooth
97. Draw on a sleeping person
98. TP someone's house - or office
99. Crush grapes in a vineyard with my feet
100. Tell my hairdresser to do "whatever she wants"
101. Get food from a food truck (November 11, 2013, Deg Thai)

Monday, February 4, 2013

+1 Makes 4

So the cat has pretty much clawed its way out of the bag. Kassidy, Kayden and I are expanding our family. We're not getting a fish (pretty sure it wouldn't live too long), a hamster, a kitten, or a puppy. Nope, we're getting... a new human. That's right, a new human being to come live with us. To be in our home. To be a part of our family

WHAT?!?!?! I've gotten that reaction from some people. It's the 'deer-in-the-headlights-are-you-out-of-your-freaking-mind' look. Or the 'you-don't-know-what-you're-getting-into' look. Here's the deal. I'm not out of my mind. I know what I'm getting into to an extent (there's a lot of factors that I'll deal with as they come).

I love kids. I'd have an entire herd of them if I could. I look at my life now and think, "Wow, this sure isn't where I thought I'd be at 29." Honestly, are we ever where we thought we'd be? This isn't what I thought my life would look like. It's not even close. In fact, it couldn't be anymore opposite. But you know what? It couldn't be any better. I feel like I am living in a fairy tale. I have friends I can call any time of the day. I have coworkers I can call family. I have a solid support system. Most of all, I have 2 awesome kids. I have a daughter who is beautiful both inside and out. She makes my heart absolutely burst with pride. Sometimes I watch her interact and see her empathy and love for others and it makes me tear up. That girl is going to do great things. I have a son who has made my perspective so different and forced me to look at life better. Through a series of unexpected turns and events he changed my life. He's so incredibly intuitive to me and my feelings that I know he will make an incredible husband and father. He loves big and he loves the small things big. He pays attention to detail and above all, he loves his mama. These two, they own me.

I never thought I'd have two kids at 22. I never thought I'd be divorced at 22. I never thought I'd be faced with the challenges I was those first few years after the divorce. I never thought I'd watch children die like I have. I never thought I'd see failed relationships with those close to me like I have. But never say never, right? I also never thought I'd go to Africa and have my heart absolutely broken. I never thought that I would literally be down on my knees, tears streaming down my face, crying for God to break me of my worldly ways. I never thought I could feel the way I did. I never thought that at 29, as a single mom, I would be starting the adoption process to add to my family.

I face the stereotypical single mom challenges. However, I'm lucky that Kassidy and Kayden have an awesome dad and stepmom who love them like crazy, so I get 50% of the time to myself. However, there's dating challenges, financial challenges, and just general single mom challenges. I can't do many things my single friends do. Some of them get it, some of them don't. When my new child comes home, I'll be able to do even less. And while it's going to be a huge adjustment for me since I love to be social, I'm okay with it. Am I worried about the money? I've spent the last 10 years of my life worried about the money. This endeavor will probably cost approximately $35,000, give or take $5,000 or so. I'm not worried about one single penny. You know why? Because this is my path.

Most, actually all of the people who know me know I'm not a huge religion person. I'm not going to sit here and quote Bible verses and tell you God speaks to me audibly. I've always been spiritual but it's no secret I've had my struggles with church. However, as I've stepped into this path of adoption, I've never felt more calm or sure in a decision. I know without a shadow of a doubt that this is God's path for my family and I, therefore I have faith that He'll provide whatever we may need along the way. As Christians, we're called to love and to take care of orphans and widows. How we're called to do so is different for everyone. This is my calling.

So yeah, I'm adopting. Will it affect my dating life? Probably. Do I care? Not one single bit. Will it be hard financially? Maybe. Do I care? Nope. Will it be a hard process? Yep. Will it stop me? Watch me.

+1 Makes 4.